Life continuously challenges us and, if we allow it, life will make us stronger. One of the most important lessons that you can learn, is to not wait for life to make you stronger and wiser, but to also challenge yourself frequently, so that you can constantly become better, wiser and stronger.

In the spirit of Women’s month, it is important to discuss a few questions that women need to be asking themselves on a daily basis.

  1. Who am I?

Lack of self-identity are one of the biggest reasons why women make the wrong decisions.
Lack of self-identity results in women ending up in relationships they should not be in, jobs that they despise or even being friends with women that they have nothing in common with. Women end up being treated in ways that they would not have allowed if they knew their worth.

They allow previous mistakes they made, trauma they went through, circumstances they were in or pain that they experienced to define them and they eventually end up accepting a way of life that they wouldn’t even have considered, all because of a lack of self-worth.

A question that all women should be asking themselves frequently is: “Who am I?”

Women so easily allow their roles (being a mother, wife, friend, business women, etc.) to define them. All women should know who they are without any of the roles that they fulfil, because otherwise you are at risk of completely losing yourself.

  1. Does my behaviour reflect who I am?

After self-identity has been determined, it is important to ensure that your behaviour reflects who you are at all times. Decide on a certain set of values and make sure that all behaviour fits into that value set.

People tend to rather be attentive to what you DO than to what you SAY.

  1. Am I worrying about things that are out of my control?

Women spend so much time and energy worrying about things that has either not happened yet or are not in their control. Start becoming aware of the things that you are worried about and ask yourself:

“Has it happened yet?”

“Is this within my control?”

Joyce Meyer mentions in one of her books that “Worrying serves the same purpose as sitting in a rocking chair; it keeps you busy, but you’re not going anywhere.”

Choose to only exert energy on things that are busy happening and things that are in your control. If you can succeed in doing this, you will probably free up so much energy that can rather be spent on things that really matters.

  1. Why can’t I?

If you succeed in rather exerting energy on positive and constructive thoughts, you will have energy to turn your can’ts in to cans and your deams into plans.

So many of the limitations that we place on ourselves are only mental, because allow the opinions of others to become our truths.
Choose to questions the limitations that you have placed on yourself and challenge yourself to not accept them. You are capable of so much more than what you give yourself credit for.

We can actually achieve so much, but we end up being our own worst enemy.
We end up dwelling on mistakes that we have made, instead of focusing on our numerous accomplishments. Challenge yourself on a daily basis by asking yourself these questions listed above, so that you constantly become stronger, wiser and better. As you let your own light shine, you inspire others to do the same.

“Here’s to strong women: may we know them, may we raise them and may we be them.”

Laetitia Dee